Stepmom arrested for lying about food allergy
Members of a popular internet forum have been left disgusted after a woman recounted how she discovered her stepmother was blatantly lying about her many alleged food allergies.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/cupcakebetty (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said she had spent years avoiding several common ingredients for years because of the her husband’s mother and described her shock at finding out it was all unnecessary.
Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for calling MIL about his allergies? » Publish received over 7,500 votes and 850 comments in the past day.
Writing that her mother-in-law had long claimed she was “deathly allergic” to eggs, ginger and salt, the original poster said she had taken extreme measures to avoid triggering these allergies.
“I have always gone out of my way to avoid these ingredients in his food and even bought separate bowls and spoons to cook his food to avoid cross-contamination,” OP wrote. “I’ve been switching ingredients for years to make sure I’m not giving her something she’s allergic to.”
Recently, however, the original poster said she was stunned to find out that her mother-in-law’s allergies weren’t allergies at all.
“About a week ago I hosted a dinner party for SIL’s birthday and made SIL his favorite salted caramel mousse,” OP wrote. “Per MIL’s dietary requirements, I’m making her a simple chocolate caramel mousse without eggs or salt.”
“I pull out a tray of salted caramel mousse… and [my mother-in-law] is slathering it on her face as fast as she can,” OP continued. “She devours all the mousse…and asks if there’s more because it was so delicious.”
“I tell her no, it’s gone but what’s going on? I thought she was allergic to those ingredients,” OP added. “She tells me well, technically she’s not allergic but she doesn’t like the taste of egg…so she just tells people she’s allergic.”
Following her mother-in-law’s explosive revelation, the original poster said she broke down and explained exactly why lying about food allergies just isn’t okay.
“She LAUGHS and says it’s ok. Lots of people do. She also told me I’m a drama queen,” OP wrote. “I told her it was a big deal. She could have just TOLD me she didn’t like it. It would have saved me a fortune by substituting ingredients or cooking separate meals.”
“Everyone at the table agreed that pretending to have an allergy when you’re not allergic is a thing to do,” OP continued. “She texted me…saying I shouldn’t have called her in front of everyone [and] now no one will take her seriously when she says she’s allergic.”
While salt consumption can speed up allergy-activating immune cells for some, and egg consumption can cause mild to severe symptoms for others, lying about a food allergy can be just as sickening.
And on many occasions over the past half-decade, top outlets like Cosmopolitan and Yahoo! have challenged these types of fabrications and the impact they have on people with severe allergies.
“Honestly, I really don’t care if you don’t like to eat any food or if you try to stay away because you don’t feel good when you eat it,” Yahoo! writer Lane Moore wrote. “But saying you have an allergy, when everyone knows you don’t, puts me on trial every time I have to tell someone.”
“I have to convince servers, who often lie about food ingredients and tell me my allergens aren’t there when they are, then I end up throwing up all night or with a rash all over my body or my throat swells like it’s full of golf ball sized grenades,” Moore added. “Basically, I have to prove that I’m not like you.”
In addition to jeopardizing the health of those who are genuinely allergic, the challenge of coping with allergies – real or false – often falls on loved ones and, as in the case of the original poster, can come at extreme cost.
Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors acknowledged the financial burden that comes with buying separate dishes to cook separate ingredients and slammed the original poster’s mother-in-law for lying. for so long.
“[Not the a**hole]“, wrote Redditor u/Gold-Somewhere1770 in the main comment of the post, which received more than 7,000 votes. “Your MIL, on the other hand, is a huge a**hole.”
“It undermines anyone with a life-threatening food allergy [and] it is expensive and takes time to adjust,” they continued. “For anyone who has a real [life-threatening] allergic, she deserved to be called.”
Redditor u/local_blonde, whose comment received over 2,400 votes, echoed that sentiment.
“[Not the a**hole]”, they wrote. “She took advantage of your kindness and your consideration, and is upset to have been called for it.”
“She lied, got caught in that lie…then was very hurt that you reported her for her lie. And now she wants you to apologize?” Redditor u/Formerthere raved, receiving over 1,600 votes. “Why?”
Newsweek contacted u/cupcakebetty for comment.